“I could never go natural” is what I hear more often than none. I’ve met numerous women that proclaim they cannot go natural because of the following reasons:
- My hair is too “Nappy”
- It’s not long enough
- It looks better straight
- It only looks good on other people and not me
- It’s too much to handle and upkeep
Now I’ve thought a lot about these responses and my first instinct was to jump up, shake them and yell, ‘you can do it!! You’re lying to yourself!”. But then I quickly realized that, I once had some of these thoughts and opinions as well.
So unfortunately, I’m going to take it there and start by saying yes, black women straightening their natural hair is historically from blacks wanting to be like white women who naturally have straight hair.
Just, think about it. How the media portrays the perfect woman. Skinny, perfect eyes, nice sexual features and of course, straight hair. At first I thought this idea was ridiculous. I never said I wanted to be white and straight hair just looks better, right? Wrong. It has been engraved in us to believe that straight hair is better, cleaner, more appealing.
Still don’t agree? Well, think it about it this way. Your natural hair is what you were born to look like. If you are natural, you weren’t naturally born with straight hair. Why say you could never be the way you were born? Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying straight hair is bad but realize this, natural hair is unique. Everyone can make their hair straight with a flat-iron, but not everyone can make their hair kinky, coily, curly, etc.
See, the reasons above for not being able to go natural is simply just fear.
- Nappy is a word that whites used to describe blacks hair in history because it wasn’t smooth like theirs.
- With the right care you can make your hair healthy and it will grow the length you want it to.
- With YouTube you can put any straight hairstyle to shame.
- Everyone is different. You have to learn the right styles that work with you. Don’t be afraid of trial and error.
- Actually, natural hair is a lot easier to deal with than straight hair because one style can last days, weeks even. With the right tools and practice, natural hair is the easiest hairstyle for me.
But you’re right. Not everyone can go natural. Because natural hair takes more than just the big chop, amazing products or numerous YouTube videos. Being natural takes confidence within yourself. That’s why I gawk over so many natural people, not because it is just amazingly gorgeous, but because they exude confidence in themselves. When you believe good things about yourself, others will too.
No, everyone does not have this confidence. But you can get it for yourself. You can learn how to obtain it step by step. You can begin to embrace how God made you. How you were born to look. All of us naturals all have our bad hair days, but learn to love what has been given to you, whether that is short, long, big, kinky, curly, coily, puffy, etc.
To go natural, all you need is the confidence and if you have that, embrace it because not everyone can.